Saturday 29 September 2012

How a Marriage Therapist Can Save a Relationship

Posted by Mike at 19:50 0 comments

When you find it difficult to bring life back to your breaking marriage relationship, a marriage therapist is the person who can act as a guide. They are the real problem solvers who understand your marital problems and try to put things back in their place.
Marriage is a certainly an important and big decision of life. However, maintaining the relation is not easy for every couple. With due course of time, either the relation would get stronger or else, it would get difficult for both partners to bear each other.
In most of the cases, it is seen that marital issues become more prominent in relationships rather than getting stronger and deeper. Many times, situations get so worse that the only option left between the couples is to get separated.
There can be several reason accounts for growing divorce cases and marital issues among the couples. Miscommunication, misunderstanding, infidelity, dominance, anger, domestic and physical violence or financial issues, there can be number of reasons that can ruin your married life. Moreover, once you start disliking your partner, even the smallest of their mistakes seem blunders to you and ultimately it would led to differences between both of you.
When very effort that is made to save your married life fails, a marriage therapist is the best person who can sort out the differences and bring life back to the crumbling relationship. In fact, they are the solution to all your problems. Their efforts are directed to make situations better and provide the couples a platform to clear issues.
Although marriage counseling is an effective way to save the relationship, but many couples take it as a waste of their time. In fact they are of the view that we can sort out problems on our own, we don't need to consult any marriage therapist. However, their struggle in relationship continues and finally they end up in separation,
Contrary to it, marriage therapists are the professional problem solvers who are capable to recognize the actual problems of your married relationship. The professionals provide you a platform to share your feelings and then guide you to the correct path. Their basic aim is to find reasons for marital problems and work accordingly to bring satiating results.
The professional marriage therapists are aware of the possible pitfalls as well as responsibilities in married life. They teach couples what all is required for a successful relationship, in fact they would make you aware of your role and responsibilities as a married partner.
Further, a marriage therapist even assists you whenever a problem arises. They teach you how to handle problems without creating any dispute. The professionals understand the worth of marital communication that usually lacks between couples. So, they would make you learn the appropriate methods of communication to interact with your spouse.
Most of the times, intimate issues are a cause of marital conflicts. With a therapist you can share all your intimate issues and they would surely give ear to your problems. Moreover, they would advise you how to respect and treat each other. As they know the importance of love and loyalty in a relationship, they would certainly help you out to understand such sensitive issues.
There are reputable marriage therapists in America, but you need to go for the one who is compassionate to fix your marital problems. When seeking therapists Los Gatos CA, residents, for instance, must go for someone who operates in their local area.
The writer of this article is Rosalind Cardia, one of the leading marriage therapists Cupertino CA residents are served by her.
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Friday 21 September 2012

What Is Marriage Coaching? Do You Need It?

Posted by Mike at 19:54 0 comments


A marriage coach can offer you and your spouse an objective opinion about what is going on in your relationship. There may be delicate situations that neither of you are able to see nor an outsider can help by mediating and offering an outside opinion. Some marriage coaches act as therapists and allow both sides to express their thoughts and opinions in a neutral atmosphere uninterrupted. In this situation, the coach could assess the situation on both sides; give suggestions on how each side could have approached things, and how to move forward.
A coach is also able to assist the couple in identifying sources of strife and conflict within the relationship. Getting down to the issues of conflict can be difficult to do on your own, and an outside evaluation can often be objective and help you to identify areas that you may contradict in with your spouse.
A coach can help you and your spouse with improving the way you communicate with each other. Coaching will help you to learn how to convey the appropriate feelings at the right time and not repress them until the next conflict arises.
Your coach can help you and your spouse to understand each other better and to accept the changes that need to take place within the relationship to make it stronger and more successful. Both partners should recognize that each has their own individual expectations and desires for the relationship and for each other. This is a major problem in many relationships and leads to discord. A healthy marriage needs respect, trust, and honesty to thrive and grow. Without it the relationship is doomed.
How do you know if you and your spouse need to see a marriage coach? If you and your spouse have noticed an upswing in arguments or disagreements, then maybe it is time for you to go see a marriage coach to help you sort things out in your relationship. The marriage coach can act as a therapist and an objective ear to listen to both sides and give constructive ideas on how to fix the situation. Another great reason that some couples seek the services of a marriage coach is if the love aspect of the relationship is gone. You may wonder what this has to do with discord. Many times, discord and arguing in the marriage will lead to problems with affection. You may be surprised at the answers a marriage coach will get from working with you and your spouse.
For more stories, insight or to ask questions, visit http://www.betterrelationshipnow.com
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Saturday 15 September 2012

How Do I Respond When My Husband Is Pushing For Us Both To See Other People During The Separation?

Posted by Mike at 19:59 3 comments

I sometimes hear from wives who are beyond hurt that their husbands have been hinting about separating in order to explore relationships with other people. In other words, their husband wants to date other women while still being married.
I heard from a wife who said: "last week, my husband approached me and said he wanted a separation. He was very specific and said he would like for us both to date other people. I immediately assumed that he was doing this because he has a particular woman in mind. But he denies this. He says that he feels that dating other people would make our best course of action clear. His theory is that if we enjoy seeing other people, then it will be clear that we are not meant to be together. However, if the experience of dating others is a bad one and we miss one another, then we will know that we should fight for our marriage. I don't buy this theory at all. And I asked if he really feels this way, why he wouldn't just divorce me? He says that divorcing right now is not what he wants. He claims that dating other people will show us if we are meant to be married. I have no desire to see or date anyone else. But when I tell my husband this, he seems to get frustrated with me. What can I do?"
This is a common situation, although it can be a very trying one for the reluctant spouse. I had to agree with this wife. I have never seen anything positive come out of married people dating others. I do believe that sometimes a separation can actually save your marriage, but this often happens when the spouses stay in contact and remain faithful. That said, this husband didn't seem to want to budge on his proposal. So I offered the wife what I could in the way of suggestions. I will share them below.
Try To Get Him To Agree To A Set Time Period Before You Consider Seeing Other People:
I firmly believe that seeing other people should be the last resort. Going through a separation is hard enough. This time period can be filled with self doubt, worry, and insecurity and all of these issues become magnified when you are also having to worry about what your spouse feels for (and is doing with) the people who he is dating. In short, it just adds too many troublesome issues to a situation that is already quite difficult.
So I believe that you should try to change his mind about this, even though changing a mind that is seemingly already made up can be quite difficult. I would suggest agreeing to the separation if it is clear that he is intent on pursuing it. However, then you offer a compromise. You tell him that a separation is difficult enough as a first step. And you ask him to give you a set amount of time, (say 2 weeks,) before you turn your attention back to dating other people.
That way, you are buying yourself some time. And he may find that having some time and space apart will give him the clarity that he needs without him needing to see other women.
If You Don't Want To See Other People, You Shouldn't Feel Forced To Do So:
If something deep inside of you is telling you that seeing other people is wrong and is something that you very much object to, then there is nothing wrong with standing your ground. Besides, he may be hoping that he can get you to see other people so that he will feel more justified in doing this himself.
If seeing other men doesn't feel right to you, then you can say something like: "I know that you want us both to date other people, but I am just not comfortable with that. To me, it is the same as cheating. I understand that you want to separate. But to me, if we are married, we should remain faithful even if we are separated. I don't intend to see other people. I know that you disagree with me, but I want to make this clear to you."
Notice that you never condoned or agreed with him seeing other women and you made it clear that you weren't going to participate. This leaves the ball in his court. And whatever he decides at least you will know that you conducted yourself with integrity.
You Must Decide How Much Access You Are Going To Give Him If He Does Decide To Date Others:
Some wives will decide that they can't be intimate with their separated husband while he is dating other women. So they will make it clear that, should he chose this path, there will be no intimacy between them. This will often give him an incentive to either stop pursuing this or to get this out of his system very quickly. A suggested script would be something like: "I'm pretty sure I've made it clear that I consider this to be in line with infidelity. To that end, I can't be intimate with or pursue a romantic relationship with you when you aren't being faithful to me. I do want to save our marriage. I hope that you will decide that you want to fight for our marriage and want to be faithful to me. I hope that when you make that decision, I am the first to know. Until then, I will wait to hear from you."
This lets him know that there is going to be consequences if he choses the unfaithful route. And it does leave things open in case he changes his mind later. But, you are also leaving no doubt that there is no room in your relationship for more than 2 people.
There were a lot of issues that I had to deal with during my own separation. I am not sure that our marriage would have survived if we had added seeing other people to the mix. There are so many things to work through without adding infidelity to an already difficult situation. If it helps, you can read my story on my blog at http://isavedmymarriage.com
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Sunday 9 September 2012

The Enslaved Husband - Tips and Tricks to Keep Him Happy and Obedient

Posted by Mike at 19:08 61 comments

The enslaved husband is, for men and women who adopt that lifestyle, one of the most profound relationships a couple can aspire to.
What is an enslaved husband?
What it means, in short, is the husband offers complete submission of his will to his wife's. And, crucially, this alwayshas a deeply sexual element to it.
It's important to realise this because many men, out of nervousness or embarrassment, will find it difficult, if not impossible, to articulate this need.
What it typically boils down to, in my experience, is really men wanting to surrender their right to orgasm to their wife -- in the hope she'll actually withhold it from them for some considerable time (often, this means forever).
We call this state of orgasm control and denial "male chastity" of course, and the psychological and emotional effects go far beyond what you might expect.
As a woman, I cannot possibly imagine why anyone would want his or her orgasms to be limited, restricted or denied in any way.
But the fact is, millions of men have this very thing as their deepest darkest fantasy, both for the physical sensations orgasm denial gives a man (which are, according to my husband and many men who have written to me, exquisite) but also for the deep emotional connection it forges with the woman (or man, if that's your thing) holding the key to his chastity device.
And for many (but not all) men, this emotional connection goes even deeper and enters the realm of true submission. It's at that point, when your man simply wants to serve and obey, that you have a truly enslaved husband.
The important thing to understand here is with great power comes great responsibility, to steal a phrase. In other words, it does not give a wife the right to ride roughshod over her husband's emotions and desires.
The keys to keeping your man happy and obedient are not simply to do as you will, but are first and foremost to discover what it is he actually means when he tells you he wants to be your slave and for you to be his Mistress.
He'll tell you, "you can do anything", but that, of course is just silly. For example, it doesn't mean you can poke his eyes out with a sharp stick (extreme, yes, but if he really meant "you can do anything", then it would be allowable, right?).
So it all comes down to ground rules, what each expects from the other.
Once you have these worked out and you both agree, then the game can begin and you can have your enslaved husband, keep him chaste and simply enjoy all the benefits male chastity has to offer a woman.
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