Relationship Advice - What Is Killing Your Marriage?

By Beverleigh H Piepers

A bad marriage not only damages your heart, but also your very soul. However, most people do not think about their future life when planning their marriage. But have you been wondering what happened to the honeymoon spark and the marriage bliss you vowed to hold on to?

If you are now starting to feel like a stranger in your own home, then it is time to review your marriage. Many people are afraid of getting married because of the rate at which marriages are failing.

The question is, what is killing marriages these days?

1. Broken wedding vows. On your wedding day, you promised to love your partner and only them. But a few years after the honeymoon, some people tend to break this vow. If you have arrived at the point where you feel like your needs are not being met, then your union could be heading south.

The feeling your current partner is now not the ideal partner means something has really changed... either for you or for them. You need to sit down and talk things over with your partner... immediately.

2. Avoidance of responsibility. Marriage comes with responsibilities... a lot of them. It's not like a date where everything else can be forgotten for a few hours. If you or your partner were not ready for marriage, then you need to find the areas that need work and focus on them before they become major problems.

A person who is not ready to take care of his or her partner and their family, doesn't really stand much of a chance in the marriage stakes.

3. Unwillingness to leave old habits. Once people get married, they do begin a "new" life, a life somewhat different from the one they were living before. Married life is different from single life, and many people find the transition period a rather difficult and trying time.

Your partner will be offended if you don't leave your single, bad habits behind. If you made the decision to leave your single life and settle down, then you have to be willing to stick with it.

4. Strange habits. Most of us manage to hide our "not too pretty side" during the dating period. However, you can't hide who you really are forever, and many of your bad habits will, sooner or later, show themselves:

·         selfishness,

·         bullying,

·         dishonesty, and even

·         poor hygiene

are a few of the "not too pretty side" many people manage to hide until after the wedding day. And they are some of the best love and marriage killers.

If you need help getting past them, then by all means get help! Talk to a marriage counselor... it's better to leave bad habits behind than for them to cause your marriage to be left behind.

Learn about yourself... what makes you this way? Are destructive emotions at the heart of the problems you are experiencing with your marriage. If so, maybe you need to get control of what you are really telling yourself.

For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.

The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give... it's in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.

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